I have learned so much in my studio...in the interactions with families, with a mom who is choosing the photos that she wants to have of her kid.When presented with the options, with the
range of who the kid is at this time in life, (let's say a teenage girl) mom often goes straight for that image of the smiling young lady. There's nothing wrong with liking a beautiful smile, it warms us, but those other images, the one that shows the complexity of the place where this kid is, that shows the mixture of someone transitioning, blending from baby to adult, from innocence to becoming a grown person, and all the puffy attitude stirred with fear and hope...wow, that is the image that I want mom to love. It often brings up all kinds of feelings in a parent, like "I don't like her when she acts all snotty," to "she gets so shy, she's hiding behind her hair again".
This passage will not last long, this kid will soon have her psyche all patted down and under control and will become the adult we all expect.
What bigger honor, what better way to teach your child that
who they are is just fine than to have in your life, in your homes, on your walls, images that celebrate the range and beauty of who they are right now.
I believe in the range of who we are. It is the range of who we are as a person, as a community that is worth valuing. I want to be seen for
my range, my big, my small, my happy and sad, my strength and for what I still have to learn. I want to be valued for where I am right now in my life, (struggling financially, like many others, for it brings me so much breadth and compassion) and I want to be celebrated for what I will become.